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Life After A Head Injury

October 22, 2019


♪[soft music]♪ Sometimes I feel like a spectator of the good times,
because sometimes I’m actually just there, standing and smiling. Having picture taken
for Facebook or whatever, social pages. Looks can be deceptive.
And Elizabeth Charleston knows all about that. As a former top model, she’s used to putting
on the makeup and creating a perfect image. But 5 years ago, a horse-riding accident
left her with a head injury, an invisible injury. Yeah I’m just sick of pretending
that everything’s fine, it’s not fine. I’m not getting better. One of the things the head injury
took away from was my confidence. And to even be able to walk down the street,
I’ve had times where I’ve had to walk behind either my mother or my cousin Judith,
at a horse show one time. I was having to hold her jersey and walk a couple
steps behind her, and that’s pretty demoralizing. [camera shutter sounds] Lizzy Charleston still models
as a plus size for national brands. She’s on the books for
the leading edge 62 Models. Sorry, I’ve forgotten the question, sorry. I’m quite tired and fatigued now. [laughing] It’s hard to see what’s wrong with Lizzy,
until you spend a couple of days with her. I’m not giving you the
answers that you want, I’m sorry. I’ve gone off on a tangent,
sorry, I’ve forgotten what we’re talking about. What was the question? Sorry! This is embarassing. Ok. I know it’s pathetic, I’m sorry,
I just need some time out. I’m getting cotton mouth now as well. And I nearly fell off the chair, woo! Ok. I try to be very articulate
and precise when I speak. But even now, I’m just sort of talking a lot,
using quite a bit of oxygen, getting a little bit shallow in my breathing. And the little brain is winding down now. It’s like the mouse in the cage with it’s wheel. And this mouse is getting a bit tired. Lizzie has lived the life that young girls dream of. As a teenager, the girl from small town
Morrinsville really was a top model. She was talent-spotted at 15. It’s lead her to compete in the worldwide search
for the international supermodel of the year. And next thing we know,
I got a fax from Ford Models in New York inviting me to represent New Zealand
at the Supermodel of the World contest. So I did that, made the final fourteen
which was very exciting at the time, to represent New Zealand,
and went on to New York. ♪[energetic dance music]♪ [camera shutter sounds] London, Milan, Los Angeles,
she travelled the world for modelling assignments. There’s a lot of things that people
in New Zealand don’t even know that Lizzie did. The first week she went to Italy,
she got 5 covers that were never shown, we never saw those in New Zealand. [camera shutter sounds] ♪[guitar music]♪ She always knew the
modelling life wouldn’t be forever. Lizzie comes from the
heartland of New Zealand. Her parents own a dairy farm in Morrinsville
and riding has been a lifelong passion. 5 years ago, she returned to New Zealand
and combined modelling assignments with equestrian events. I live 27 steps from my parents’ house
on their farm down on Waikato. Lovely little cottage and would I love to be
independent and living in the city or something? Love to, but realistically,
I’ve got to know that my mother Jocelyn is close by so she can monitor
things and like, “How are you today?” “Have you hit your head today?”,
“Have you done something stupid?” So how long that’s going to go for, I don’t know. It was at a show 5 years ago
that events took a completely unplanned path. To this day I still have absolute recall
like it’s happening now, of what happened. I was on a young horse.
I had taken it to a small event just to bring it on and give it some training,
and I was competing. I’d come out of a class,
I was being a bit of a brat child that day. And in the collecting ring it started to rear up. And being a reasonably competent rider,
I just put the legs on him and pushed it forward, gave it it’s reins like,
you know, come on get on with it. And it did three of these sort of bounds forward,
and this horse then flipped itself on its side. He just spun around and
we went straight over backwards. Lizzie was still in the saddle. And it was the middle of summer,
the ground was rock hard. And she was knocked out cold. That’s when it goes black. And then a minute or two, I came to,
and I was flat on my back, and I thought, oh this isn’t right. And I had all these faces sort of popping
in front of me, and thought, right, I’ve got to let them know that I’m ok.
So it’s like, what can I say? And all I could see in front of me was the sky,
so I said, to sound really switched on and I’m ok, I said, “Oh, what a pretty blue sky.” I sort of regret now that I didn’t let her go
in that ambulance… well in that helicopter. I think things might have
been taken more seriously. She had excruciating pain in the head,
and it got worse. So we got home and I said to mom, not feeling too good. So she took me to the hospital,
there was quite a bit of concern with the neck as well, so I was put in the cage,
that you let put you in, and this was at Waikato Hospital. They actually reduced the hours of observation
that I was meant to be on, so they backdated it to the time of the accident and
sent me home that night. And I remember, before I left the hospital,
I was pleading with the doctors and nurses, “Please help me.” There was something really wrong with me. In New Zealand, a 170 people a week are
admitted to hospital with a head injury. It’s one of our leading causes of disability. At first, Lizzie seemed to
recover from her serious injuries. But gradually, everyone realized the
head injury had left a legacy. I have walked a mile in my shoes. It sucks, I hate to say, but it’s what…
I’ve managed to manufacture myself to make it look ok but it’s… unfortunately that’s probably
been the worst thing I could’ve done for myself because that’s not ok. I’m living day-to day, hour-to-hour,
just monitoring my health. Have I done something stupid,
have I hit my head, do I need have to have my [inaudible] which I have to have most days. How am I feeling, I can’t drive to places
after 10 kilometres, I start getting tired. Things that do embarass me some days,
yes, but it’s the injury, she doesn’t recognize people, people she’s known all her life. Mum who’s that?
And that’s why she so leans on me quite a lot. But Lizzie has been a very outgoing girl,
meets anybody, meet royalty, you name it, she’s not frightened.
Woke up to [Don Kean], say hello, I’m Elizabeth Charleston. Some days she can still do it.
And other days, oh no, go away! Oh it’s just so pathetic and frustrating
to live with these boundaries. It’s very soothing to the soul to look
around and see the beautiful green grass and the hills everywhere. Oh I agree. Lizzie also finds that at 34, she can’t live alone. So I’d be a bit lost without mom and I need to know
that mom’s there. It’s part of the head injury thing, it’s I wouldn’t say insecure but I need
to know where mom is. Actually I spent a couple days down
in Wellington for a meeting and I was like counting down the days. I mean I’m 34 for goodness sakes. Grow up! But… What’s it like when she’s not here? Any problems? I just pace myself, I’m fine,
but it’s always nice to know she’s coming back. So the boot’s on the other foot now.
It used to be me going away with the modelling jobs and being overseas, and now
she goes away and I’m fretting. So… It’s come full circle. [inaudible] if you want to wash those legs now. It’s a fact that a head injury significantly
alters the brain’s ability to regulate moods. Emotional outbursts, depression,
and flying off the handle are all part of the consequences. I’m also [inaudible] on them. But people look at my mom and I
doing our things and they think, oh we get along so well. My god, we’ve had hellraising fights,
even in the stable, holding a horse, she wasn’t doing it properly,
and I went off my nuts. And that was the head injury talking. And she became quite unreasonable,
I mean you just couldn’t believe a person could be… some people would say rude. And that would have been
really coming to her head I think. But now she can try and
control this rage, we’ll call it. Counting [inaudible] in which I’ll run into,
all that sort of… you know to us would be silly. But she has those days, she has to come back
and get in her little house and just keep forward. It’s pretty much every second day
I come and apologize to you isn’t it mom? [laughs] Because the thing is, I know when the
head injury is doing… is responsible for my behavior. Because I’d like to think that
I’m a reasonable person. So that’s why it’s quite frustrating
when I do behave in a certain way. Oh god! Lizzie experiences classic symptoms of a head injury. She couldn’t remember people and events,
she had constant headaches. She was continually exhausted by everyday life. The dog’s barking.
That can freak me out. I can get into an absolute foul mood and want to
actually shoot the dogs, the greyhounds that we have out back. And that can set me off on a complete tangent,
it’s the stupid things. Tubby! It’s like being the eighty year-old grumpy old man sort of sitting at home complaining
about the neighbors or something. I’m at that point where anything
can sort of set me off of it. It took 2 years and rounds of visits to
specialists to get the final diagnosis, a brain injury. But no one can say whether
there will be further improvement. Lizzie is well aware that she’s not alone. Come on Tubby. I can’t be the only person in New Zealand
or in the world that’s living like this where by all appearances, things look fine. It’s pretty horrible, and I think we’ve got to talk
about head injury and have the winners there because there’s that sense of shame
if someone’s lost their marbles or they’re not quite right in the head. Heya. Hello. What have we got here? – Well this is the Teletubby, his real name’s Tillytubby–
– Teletubby because he’s a bit fat. That’s beautiful. This is Jocelyn’s favorite horse Alex. So what’s the plan, are you going to take
him out for a bit of a work out? Yup, we’ll just pop him into this little paddock
over here just to give him a spin round to see how he’s going to behave.
I might do some work on the tracks. Just to ease him into it, get him back into work. Right Tubs? We usually have a small cuff raised in the saddle
to get the… introduce him to the [inaudible] She rides, but even that is different from the old days. When she was based in South Africa,
she won State and National titles in dressage and showjumping. In New Zealand, she regularly competed
at the horse of the year shows. Wait, not going too bad Lizzie? No, he’s actually pretty good. 3 months without a saddle. Does he have shoes on or not? He’s got 2 at the back, the front ones have fallen off… I don’t think 2 at the back’s much use. [inaudible] is due tomorrow. Oh stop it. Now she limits herself to a gentle trot
in the paddock with a trusted horse. Tubs! Come on, Tubby! Catch up! Before the injury, I could ride a horse all day. Lots of horses, not a problem, wouldn’t blink an eye,
and just kept on tracking through. Well there are eventing horses that we had in
South Africa was… undergo training and just… it was all on. And now it’s very exciting if I’m allowed to have
10 minutes for a ride before I start getting sick. I get sort of vertigo and nausea,
especially when I’m cantering. So that’s not really going to happen. But it’s just being really careful when I get on.
Especially it’s got to be a horse that I can trust. I just get you to help me get off. In the accident in 2005, I blew out ligaments
in my knees, so that’s aching. The lower back’s aching,
just the general fatigue, I want to throw up. George! [whistles] Come on! I’m getting the shooting pains through
my skull which…it’s just blinding pains. You’re not going to give him a full wash are you? Oh Alex, stop it. And, yes, this is how it’s affecting me now,
but the rest of the afternoon, I just have to take it easy. So it’s a big deal to go for
a ten minute ride these days. Which is… that’s pathetic! But that’s [inaudible]. I mustn’t say it’s a disappointment because it’s
not fair to Lizzie because she didn’t wish to be hurt. It’s a sad thing, to see this beautiful girl out there
being Ms. Lizzie, and then I know what she’s got to put up with the next few days. She’s in her little room there and I’ll probably
take her some dinner or… because she just won’t eat, she won’t make herself a meal. ♪[guitar music]♪ In the early stages of the head injury,
my big thing was that I wanted my old life back. I was very resentful that I was confined
to a certain life and lifestyle. And actually, a friend’s mother,
that girl had had injuries herself, and the mother’s comment to me was
that you’ve just got to forget about your old life. Forget it and move on. And I wouldn’t, I wanted elements of my old life back. And I think I’ve worked and fought pretty hard
to bring some of those elements into life now. The internet has been a lifeline,
a connection to the world even on the bleakest days. Hello! Hi Lizzy! Hello Joan, how are you? Lizzie has not been content
to just hide out on the farm. She figured one thing she could do was get
involved in supporting others. Oh that looks great! It does, doesn’t it? What does the t-shirt look like? She walked in the doors of the
Waikato Head Injury Society and threw herself behind
an awareness campaign. Should I show you my Facebook page
that I’ve been doing with the THINK! project? Yes, I’d be very interested. Part of that has been creating a Facebook page
to reach out to younger people. Okie dokie, come on Facebook, where are you? It’s very new, it’s been 2 months since
we’ve gone on to Facebook, but it’s just taken off like a rocket. So that in itself has been amazing.
People have actually been contacting Facebook and we’re just amazed how that’s grown. And so that’s all Lizzie has done all of that. So it’s slowly getting up there.
I’ve got a lot of horse people on it, but I’m starting to [inaudible] with
a few rugby and other sporting people. So obviously people that I don’t know,
but it’s really good feedback. When I first met Lizzie, just soon after her accident,
she was in denial at that stage. She was actually not doing anything at all
for the head injury society because she was still trying to compete,
and she was still doing her modelling. but in fact it was not working very well for her
because she couldn’t understand why she was so fatigued and so tired. And it’s only in the last 18 months that
Lizzie has finally realized that she really can’t do the things that she used to be able to do. Everything links backs to the
Waikato Head Injury Society because that’s a subsidiary of the Head Injury Society. There’s so many people that you just look at them
and you don’t think they’ve got a head injury until you actually know them after a while,
or they may mention it. Or they may.. maybe in their speech,
and in Lizzie’s case, when she gets very tired, her speech is affected. And unfortunately that really…
she closes right down. So it does happen to other people as well. Because whatever they do, even if it’s a little bit,
they do find that they are so tired, they can’t take it and their communication goes then. Her next step was to set about signing up
[inaudible] stores to offer discounts on their range of helmets. If years of modelling have taught her anything,
it’s how to work her contacts. Hello, so lovely to see you again! Thank you so much for supporting me
with this project with head injury awareness week. It’s an absolute pleasure. Today, she’s convinced the olympian Sir John Walker
and his daughter Elizabeth Metcalf to front up for a photoshoot at their
family-owned business Stirrups. [camera snaps] Sir John’s not an easy man to pin down,
so it says much about her skills that Lizzie has persuaded him to get on the bandwagon. [camera snaps] This is the first year we’re doing it,
so hopefully we can do it again next year and the year after that. So it’s just growth, education, awareness. This is a [inaudible] helmet, it was designed in France. It was designed by a guy that was a racing car driver. Ok! I know that they cost a little bit more,
but with the discount that you’re offering this week with the head injury awareness week,
it’s worth getting one because you only get one head, don’t you? [laughs] If we can prevent just even a handful of people
going through and experiencing what I’ve had. You wouldn’t wish upon your worst enemy, it’s not a fun way to live. So if we could just educate from young to old,
because there is that attitude in New Zealand, oh, she’ll be alright, you don’t have
to wear a hat. That’s not true. Have you been down to see Bridget
and the girls at the riding store? She finds someone to drive her to Auckland
and goes out on the town with the girlfriend. That’s sort of how most single
thirty-somethings count as routine. But Lizzie can only handle so much. – So it’s been a bit of a long day.
– Yeah! Happy you got through it. Well I really enjoyed coming out and
playing in the city but the wheels came off at lunch. – I umm..
– What happened? Well I excused myself but I just ended up in the alley way, balling my eyes out when the director came out. And I was like, hey [inaudible] [mock crying] It’s just the way it is. It’s just… it’s too much,
there’s too much stimulation, there’s too much noise. And me talking for so long,
because as you can tell, I like to talk. But it just gets too much for me. But I don’t usually let… it’s embarassing,
you’re embarassing because I don’t portray myself as being the person that gets up and cries. I don’t like people seeing that. No one will pick that you had [inaudible] today,
how do you bounce back so quickly? It wasn’t a little cry, it was the ugly cry. I give myself a peptalk. It’s like well, I’m committed to this project
with filming today, so I’ve got to get through it. Because I knew that we had a couple of more scenes
to do and just focus, what’s the… getting home is the goal so… And then I’ve got the rest of
the week to just hide and recover. Lizzie sees a future for herself,
but like the thousands of other head injury survivors, it’s a different path
from the one she had planned. I want to participate in life, but to do that,
I’ve learnt now that there are boundaries. That’s why I’m trying to speak up about
head injury awareness because I’m not the only person in New Zealand
that’s going through this.

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  1. life throwing a curve ball. l dont have a brain injury as such. the chemicals in my brain have changed and medication is my only option. its not easy its depressing,fustrating and sad. l try hard not to burden my family-kids all in their 30's. even after living with this for over 20yrs now my children dont want to hear it. they have the opinion, if we pretend its not there then its not. l get lost going somewhere. l have even past my own house l've been living in the same place for almost 25yrs. l loose things, l'll get to the shop and have know idea why l'm there. keep telling the same stories to my ever patience 17yr old grandson. l forget what l'm saying in the middle of a sentence. l dont leave my house very often. l do try but l get ready to go, get to the front door and panic setts in, it can take hours to get over . sleep calms me. l have no friends as l cant give back to a friend like you should. its not all doom and gloom l have my pets my husband (best in my world) tfs sorry for going on. l hope this finds you well calm and loved

  2. Also I've had a Brain Injury from a Car Accident I survived a Month in a Coma!

  3. so happy i came across your video. I am also post concussive
    it has changed me in so many ways. I know exactly how you feel about every thing you mention.
    I hit my head again only 9 months later, and its the hardest most tiring thing anyone can go through. Hang in there, you are stronger than you think!. sending you positivity🌺

  4. The assumption – in regard to anyone who looks reasonably "normal" – may tend to be that he or she does NOT have any intellectual disability, and/or physiological illness and/or disease, and/or any psychological condition and/or mood disorder, and /or delay… and yet the number of apparently "normal" people who have any one or more of any of those things may actually far EXCEED the number of people who do not have any number of those things. In other words, having any one or more of those may – in fact – BE the actual norm. But, because of there being such a pervasive undercurrent of stigmatization against having any of those which are deemed as being imperfections, individuals who experience having any of those things are likely to tend to be generally disinclined to openly and freely acknowledge or admit (perhaps, each even to his or her own self, let alone also to anyone else) to having any of those things.

  5. I never had a tbi but I do seem to have major issues with memory, focus and cognition. I even though at one point I was developing dementia. But apparently I react to certain foods and have brain inflammation during horomonal changes and certain foods, I may also have a thyroid issue. I've been coping with my symptoms by getting coconut oil, blueberries, avocados, and b12 into my diet more frequently as well as exercising my brain, staying active and reducing inflammation by drastically changing my diet to eliminate most grains and other things my body reacts to.

  6. I love the fact she loves riding horses and it's a passion of hers. I ride myself and this is a wake up call to those riders who don't wear helmets. She was lucky enough to be wearing her helmet or else her head injury would've been so much worse.

  7. I had a AVM Bleed in my frontal lobe deep inside.I went to Wollongong Hospital in Nsw Wollongong and they said there was nothing they could do to save my life, so they said to my family to come and say there goodbyes,After a week i was still hanging in there so Professor Micheal Morgan at RNS at Sydney told my doctor to send me up to him.So i went to him had the brain surgery was in a coma for 3 weeks after the opp i had to learn everything like a baby. Since the opp i have lost all my family i dont have no one but 1 mate.I get very server headaches 24/7 and all the same as the lady in the film..I just hope no one reading is in as much pain 🙁

  8. It is interesting that Plus size is model size in NZ. I wonder if she represents the ideal body size in NZ? In a sense this is a healthy attitude. I wonder if the anorexic and bulemia rates are lower in NZ?

  9. thank you for sharing…my 27 yr old grandson is trying to find his new normal after tbi…we need all the help we can get…God bless Lizzy and her family

  10. she not alone with this disability my friend called Jamie he has got a brain injury he got hit by a car when he was raiding his bike he went over the car and he broke his back and hit his head and that’s how he got his brain injury

  11. I use ear plugs placed loosely in my ears so loud noises like dogs barking don't bother me. Can't filter well so this helps. Keep going. Things will get better for you.

  12. I'm currently dealing with a head injury from work…..I'm always tired, and have mood swings and sometimes forget what I'm talking about during a conversation

  13. Thank you for speaking out about TBI. Same here- someone ran a red light blindsiding me, doctors sent me back to work wrangling packs of dogs WITH a severe brain injury, which resulted in losing my business, my home, and everything I owned. But when life hands you lemons, make a YouTube channel! So I'm documenting (somewhat) my life living on the road- and hopefully a journey to healing.

  14. I ask this, Is riding a horse doing an injured brain harm? Seems to me it would be an activity to avoid, might make the condition flare up, be the cause of difficult days, and prolong symptom. How is jostleling the brain with a head injury helping it?

  15. so glad that she shared her story! at the time of this upload it was five years for her. It's been ten for me now. I still have many of the same things going on, but especially the, "Did you hit your head today?" It's difficult and recovery is different for everyone, but I think that we all find a way to "live" with it rather than "full recovery".

  16. I am a brain injury survivor also – caused by a brain tumor in my 20s. I am 54 now and have just been diagnosed with Dementia. I totally identify with this woman and hopes she does get better ~

  17. Hi,Hope you are doing good! I am 27 years old.I am ready to marry with any girl who has any disease.I have not any health problem.I think that we can fill happiness in somebody's life.My contact number is +91-9034645156 and +91-7988302406. Thanks.

  18. All the love from the UK, I suffer a very severe head injury and severe TBI, I am right with you, and I know exactly what you're saying and feeling, I have to have me time too. All the best and love, and my saying now, "Keep smiling" 🙂

  19. I can’t finish my conversations sometimes I just thought it was dimentia I think I have had a brain injury all my life .

  20. I had a frontal lobe brain injury in 2010, an since then my symptoms are pretty much identical to how you have described yours. Constant headaches, fatigue, going off on tangents, which I call it brain farts, depression, an a constant thought of my previous self. Having to accept that life will never be the same.

  21. Finally. I've waited 27 years for some kind I decent media coverage about the hell us TbI survivors live with , in the U.S. we got no help nor hope. Frankly I rather be dead than continue to live like this.

  22. ELIZABETH.. THERE IS BRAIN THERPY…& FELDENKRAIS &HOMOPATHY & PROGRESSIVE CHIROPRACTIC …THERES ALL THES NEW BREAK THROUGHS SO SORRY FOR SPELLING I HAVE BEEN UP ALL NIGHT I MOSTLY SLEEP DEEP…SEE RICKY DALE BROWN.. FOR SKULL

  23. In 2007 I fell off of the trunk of a Ford focus, and smacked my head of the cement. From what I've been told. I was in the hospital for a month I was in a satiated coma cause the left side of my brain was swelling up and right side of it was bleeding if it didn't stop they were gonna cut into my head, but I guess it all stopped cause they didn't cut into my head. I guess the day I left the hospital to go from I was fine everything was good but a couple days went by after I was home and I was rushed back cause I couldn't walk. And if I'm correct I was never told why it was I couldn't walk. But because of this tbi I have horrible memory. I can't remember anything most of the time and some times I'll remember things some time after the time I'm needed to remember whatever it is. I use to get horrible headaches 24/7 but they died down, now I just get this really really sharp pains like deep in my brain and as I'm getting these sharp pains I get dizzy and this blackness takes over my vision and I can almost not keep my balance. I never got the last MRI I was suppose to get. I went a seen a new doctor about a week ago about my pains to get it checked out. And my eyes seem to always be dilated too. I go on the 18th to get an MRI done and then June 25th I go to a nuerolists about my pains too. I've had these sharp pains happen over 30 times in one day. They're horrible. I've been looking up more info about tbi to find more out. So any info anyone has would be great. All tbi are different.

  24. Its so sad shes a lovely young woman with her whole life ahead of her and her passion has been kind of robbed from her, its actually scary for her i think because if shes become so clingy and dependent on her mother now, what will she do when her mother eventually passes away? I really hope she can get help and find somekind of therapy or treatment, something that can bring her back to everyone and just be able to live her life properly again.

  25. oh god a channel that i can relate too i had an accident well I was run over whilst cyclin may 25th 2014 and I have TBI my life is different now

  26. Terrible dizziness unusually so, could not even move my eyes a few hours after being kicked in the head by a cowboy boot heel.. so sad a life after, nobody understand nobody cares.

  27. ive had head injuries man it stuffs you up in real life straight up i forget hard no good and doesn't mix well in society in my case to much to list

  28. LIkewise….2 Head injuries…takes me a little longer to think things through now…affected too many things…Its not noticeable to strangers. Gets frustrating.

  29. I've been fighting to regain my ability to read for a year and a half after standing up into a metal shelf and suffering a depressed skull fracture I ignored for five months thinking it'd get better on its own, head injury awareness is really important even if you feel fine afterwards try to get it checked and monitor yourself as looking back now there are lot of warning signs I should have noticed, even now I struggle to retain information and try to review what I've read two or three times to make sure I got it, it really sucks cause I read all the time and used to be able to do it really fast

  30. Sorry to hear about your injury Elizabeth. You are not alone, by far! I really want to say thanks to you more people will learn about this. You are still very beautiful, on the inside and out. Maybe visiting sick kids might pick up your spirits, and someone to love you when your parents have left us. Maybe start a foundation for head injuries in kids as a distraction. Or something like that!

  31. I had a sub dural heatomia in 1972 from a car accident I had no problems until a few days ago I am very dizzy and tired…I don't know what to do….I see a doctor once a year but as long as I take my meds I am fine(I am an electrical contractor in Hawaii)but I need help…[email protected]

  32. thank you soooo much for sharing your story! I am 14 months in from my accident and what i find the most helpful is knowing i'm not alone….and all the difficulties you share are what i experience. Thank you….i hope you will continue to do better and better. x

  33. if you don't want to hit your head stop riding horses.Stop abusing animals .How would you like to ridden ?Fucking stupid lazy humans !!!You will get no sympathy from me !!!Fuckinh English scum

  34. Just amazing, how so many of the topics covered hit home for me. Please keep up the great videos, you got a subscriber out of me.

  35. I had a head injury 2 n half years ago my life have been distroyed I’m disabled can’t do nothing always dizzy n headaches 24/7 everything it’s sooo difficult to do even take showers n baths r exhausting it’s been a living nightmare nobody understands what I’m going thru because I look normal

  36. Wow as a mother, her mum would feel so crap that she did not get her daughter the help that she needed after the accident as that would have made a world of difference. i feel for her

  37. I have a brain injury from a car accident. I had another one month after due to the vertigo and fell down 8 hardwood stairs with my head landing back nd forth on it. 10 months out and I still have stuttering and stammering, brain fog, short term memory loss, nausea headaches and great fatigue. Every thing you said is true. The fatigue is so overwhelming just to do one thing. I get distracted badly and forget simplle things. I go to a TBI center at a military hospital. They are specialists with brain injury. I just learned today of a supplement L Theonine, you can get it at the drugstore that will help calm any anxiety and help with focus. I took one today for the first time and it did make me feel no panic, not the headache though. I am very happy that you focused on helping others. I cannot return to work that I did for 35 years so I don't know exactly what my new purpose in life is. I have tended to isolate myself and don't go anywhere because of the speech impediment. Its so embarrassing.

  38. My "mild" brain injury is much as described here: "Invisible". Which can make things both easier and harder. Easier because you don't have the enormous obstacles that those with serious motor and speech problems face (mine weren't affected), but harder because people are entirely unaware of it. You can't say to everyone you meet "Oh, by the way, I have a brain injury so please make allowances".

    Like others with an injury like mine, the main affects are on cognition, memory, vision, headaches and – hardest of all for me at least – "perception", by which I mean how you percieve the world, the feeling of unreality and unconnectedness which has made me suicidal at times. What she said at 16:38 struck a huge chord with me: "I want my old life back…I was very resentful" With help I have learned to cope, but those feelings have never gone away.

  39. You are a brave, strong and beautiful woman. I recently watched my grandson struggle with a bad concussion from playing football. He had terrible headaches, dizziness, nausea, and eye problems. These were just some of the things he suffered with. It took him over a year before he could return to school . He went to head injury clinics, rehab, neurologist and had numerous testing done. I would never have known how severe the effects of a concussion could be let alone a brain injury. You’re in my prayers and thoughts. I truly believe that with your determination anything is possible.. 💕🙏

  40. I also find the fatigue a huge problem with trying to plan anything, with trying to accomplish or complete any projects which is very frustrating. Its a struggle to keep your old life going and to continue earning a living, support others and operate at the level people expected from you from knowing your capabilities before the accident.
    What I have found is most people distance them selves from you, especially those who for the most part were to one degree or another mostly connected to you for their benefit. I am sure it must be very similar for her. Being withdrawn at times is another problem because others don't consider why you need to and you don't want to let them know either because you don't want to seem weak or incapable of doing the same things since it is often temporary. She is very lucky she has her family's support and understanding, I know what it is like to not have that which really is frustrating, especially when they did help it was for their gain since you were i the previous state considered to be will off and had a successful career, and they were jealous and even resented you for having that.
     My accident was very bad and in one of the worst countries in the world to have a serious accident where the hospitals were unfit for humans and the medical staff have the worst training you could imagine and the doctors would cause more harm than good, Vietnam. I shouldn't be alive considering the injuries I had that were extensive and given I was left laying on a metal table for 2 days in the morgue while the hospital was waiting for me to die and had not even wiped the blood from me or put me on a IV. Had it not been for a few friends literally kidnapping me and physically forcing their way by the medical staff, doctors and security to put me in an ambulance to take me to a private clinic where a air evacuation was arranged to get me to Bangkok where I was operated on for 28 hours and again after the doctor decided I was going to continue fighting hard enough to survive another 26 hours of facial and skull reconstruction. I had 3 crushed vertebra, neck and spine nerve damage, one eye hanging out, the other a severed optical nerve, crushed nasal passages, crushed upper and lower pallet, damages eye orbits, 78 facial fractures,jaw or mandible fractured in 4 places, several teeth gone and broken,30 some skull fractures, open head injury exposing a severed the dura mater layer, CSF brain fluid leaks filling my lungs, brain infection, collapsed lungs, and many superficial wounds, cuts and stretched and severed nerves and was in a coma for a month, waking up unable to use my arms, hands, fingers or walk without aid with no memory from just moments before the accident which I had by hitting a very large tree head first at around 50kms with a very light plastic helmet that had disintegrated which apparently is the only reason I did live because my head was able to swell to near twice it size which had I wore a proper helmet by western standards would have prevented by protecting the skull from shattering. After waking from the coma I stayed in Vietnam for 8 without any rehab, no supervised medical care and no pain medication since in Vietnam I was unable to get level 3 pain medication since it is classified as a narcotic and they would not prescribe it unless I was admitted to a hospital and that was the last place I wanted to be in that country.
    The Thai hospital I was air evacuated too was private and though not as costly as one in America or Singapore was still extremely expensive considering my insurance company denied me coverage, which is another story altogether. Had I been able t afford the $2500 a day to stay in the Thai hospital I would not have suffered the extreme nerve pain and had several months of rehab but the already $250,000.00 hospital fee, $40,000.00 air evacuation, $5000.00 clinic fee in Vietnam and numerous other legal and other expense that exceeded $150,000.00 was putting me in a very difficult situation. Since I had been living in Vietnam part time for business I had a rented home I could return to to recover so I hiring a maid in Vietnam that spoke very basic English but had no training was just enough to assist me to wash, use the toilet, fetch soups since my mouth was wired closed and help me get to a Chinese medicine and acupuncture and massage clinic, which was my only option for pain relief and in aiding me with becoming more flexible. Slowly be able to move my arms, hands and fingers again, took me 8 months to gain enough strength to stand for a short period of time and be able to be placed in a wheel chair to fly home. I had muscle atrophy and had lost 60 lbs and had almost no muscle at at all when I left the Thai hospital, threw acupuncture, stretching, massage and lifting 2 lbs weights, riding a stationary bike, and eventually exercising in a pool and eventually being able to swim I regained my ability to not be mostly bed ridden. Even all the suffering, humiliation, extreme pain, not being able to sleep for months, and the physical disabilities were as difficult as dealing with the TBI, the invisible injuries were the hardest to understand and try to recover from but worse was that no one acknowledges them. I swear to god I would have gotten more sympathy, help, and been recognized as disabled or at least injured had I wore a fake cast on my arm, even now after all I have been through I still struggle with that part of having a acquired brain injury. TBI still effects my ability to function, have relationships, manage finances, cope with stress, have the energy to get threw a day and communicate with people, which is worse at certain times than others. If you have a incident where someone does recognize a difference then your crazy and there is zero empathy or consideration for the fact you have a traumatic brain injury that effects emotions and some other functions but has not effected your intelligence or made you crazy. Showing people like Elizabeth can make more people aware but I feel a lot more needs to be done to help people with TBI so they do not have the daily challenges of just trying to survive and can recover at what ever pace they need. It is also very critical that the attitude towards brain injuries be changed and showing more circumstances where someone has managed to return to their career in some capacity is helpful but I am concerned about the pity aspect, it devalues what the person does and only makes you feel patronized. The other issue I have come across is discrimination against someone with TBI, it is very hard to say anything about that because all anyone has to say is they never even knew the person suffers from TBI in the same way they couldn't deny they saw someone in a wheelchair. I personally have experienced discrimination, biases, defamation and slanderous talk that has definitely contributed to hurting my reputation and business, some people are very manipulative and will recognize ways of using what has happened to you against you by slipping out comments. The only way to stop TBI from making more difficult to recover and get your life back is by making sure there s a better understanding of the problems and the variety of ways individuals are effected. The other misconception that most everyone has is that your recovered when you start to look normal and have overcome some of the difficulties, that is when you really start to be left to deal with the long term problems because everyone assumes it was like a wound that healed, how do you cope with that would be my question, how is Elizabeth coping today years later which is always what people forget about.

  41. it is totally different after a TBI and it's invisible and it affects everthing but nl one dees it or gets it, especially when we fkrget or brain is too tired

  42. she has all i do but USA bad diagnostics with cumulative and i am just fonding videos that help me 8 yrs on. the worst is when people treat you as an idiot not damaged andaybe need sleep or tonted glassrs for shopping took away those shopping panic attacks. fprgetting was daily. exhausted aggravated easily and preyending it's ok. lies that ylu cope using for those tjat don't get it

  43. I can appreciate this video and hope it brings more awareness to life after a brain injury. My son suffered a tbi a few years back and has not fully recovered and its painful when my husband says things like he's lazy, or that was a long time ago there's nothing wrong with him. People need education before they judge or speak negatively.

  44. Excellent – Very Helpful for both those with Head Injury and those close to them. Thank you Elizabeth, for sharing your story – I wish you all the best for the future 🙂

  45. I hope she gets the confidence back one day. I see people with head injuries all the time at work and it is really hard to live with it.

  46. Wow, I get like that too. I think it’s more my hearing (I have trouble filtering sound), the exhaustion that comes with Fibromyalgia and me being a natural introvert. I hope she has a wonderful life ahead, despite the TBI.

  47. You're not alone. My TBI was in 1989 and I also feel like I'm always putting on a front to hide my invisible injury. Memory problems, fatigue, same stuff you deal with. hugs Thank you for being awesome by sharing your story, helping to raise awareness and fighting through every day. You're amazing!

  48. I had 2 traumatic brain injuries in 2 years, from accidents at home, one that broke my nose and knocked me out for 2 hrs., one that snapped off my R humerus and crushed my shoulder. I was in my early 50,s and it did the same thing to me along with giving me an aneurysm in the center of my brain. I thank God for my husband, cause he has had to deal with so much and keeps loving me thru it all. I was a very active person before my accidents, now have lotsa limitations, fears, anxiety, anger and frustrations that come about me and quite often memory issues and migraines. I sleep a lot more than normal and have not been able to work. It is so hard to adjust to this. I am glad I found this. Even tho I am much older, it is still very frustrating and at times embarrassing. I am on medications that help with some of the pain and anxiety and anger bouts, and hope to some day get better, even if it’s just a little. It’s good that you can get out and about, and also still work some. I keep hoping and praying that I can do the same some day. You are young yet, keep pushing forward and may God bless you as you find your way in life.

  49. Much thanks. Thoroughly engrossing and inspiring. Your language regarding challenges, moods, fears, sense of loss, dependence, but also that you have also reminded me/us of the abundance of care, support and love from our social networks. That was great to see John Walker again. Remember went he visited our school when he was the primer runner of his time.

    In January 2019 I had and Industrial Accident (fell 3 metre through a roof) this left me with vestibular, cerebellum damage causing balance problems, I also had hearing lose in one ear(100%) along with other nerve sensory problems (night walking problems) and finally daily head pain. I spent nine weeks away from home in hospital and (ABI) rehabilitation. I have been pushing forward relentlessly, refusing to concede to the OT, PT, ST, Dr of Neurology. A sense of non-improvement in the last two weeks along with sharper head pain means I have become frustrated and angry.

    Talking to a lady at church today who is still dealing with the effects a farm bike accident 2 years ago, and also scouring the web for answers then finding your story this evening. I sense there will have to be movement of thinking, meaning a deliberate effort toward acceptance, with the constant hope for substantial improvement.

  50. Can you show actual proof of a SERIOUS HEAD INJURY? Or is this just a ploy to market your self from a bump on the head?

  51. No, your not alone. Thousands of people in Canada have a tough time getting mild tbi diagnosed. It can be worse than some more moderate injuries. The damage is microscopic, and doesn't show up on cat scan or mri. And the problems stemming from it are often small on their own, but put together with other symptoms lines of understanding are often blurred. Family really needs to stand behind the individual, and let your doctor understand the changes and differences in the person's life. Education is really the key. When those around understand why things are happening, that makes all the difference.

  52. Yes. Concossion. Unable to remember or dizziness. Can't nod head. People don't understand. It's been over a year. Drs don't know.

  53. For everyone with a TBI or concussion, Amen Clinics has a pretty good method of healing you can learn at home via their youtube channel.
    Now a year ago I have had a TBI and tried their method and it really helps.

  54. Thank goodness you made this video. I had a severe brain injury and appear normal, but my experience of the smallest things is difficult in ways I cannot describe. I fake wellness with my friends and change the subject if I don’t remember the answer to something. Very few people truly understand this fate.

  55. Thanks for sharing Lizzie you are not alone. I'm from Christchurch living with a TBI accident from 2003

  56. Thank you for sharing been going through this for the last for year …. my psychologist found that I have TBI and mixed emotions. A relief that I am not crazy/ stupid/ asking what wrong with me !!! Now trying to process ! Thank you for sharing especially we look normal but the injury is in the inside on the most important part of body!!! Thank you 😊

  57. Don’t give up searching for help in whatever symptoms are affecting you.
    Don’t take it laying down waiting for them to go away which is the advice doctors give most patients.

    Look on YouTube for videos from other people and from researchers, as well as doctors who really want to help patients improve faster.
    I wasted 2 years after a concussion in January 2017 waiting from seizures to seizures. One day I woke up and said enough. I refuse to live the rest of my life that way.

    I found a wealth of knowledge on YT; from others, doctors, and now 2 and a half years later I am a little better.
    Look up the channel for tbi coach. My vision is affected so I mostly listen.
    Have a neuropsychological evaluation done; visual exam by an optometrist; learn about what not to eat for the brain to process digestion(ex: stop eating pasta, rice, breads).
    Have hope, knowledge and perseverance. Blessings 🙏❤️😊

  58. I suffered a TBI in 2018, after being hit by an SUV. I also remember how my life was before my accident, and I want that person back too. When I look back, or talk about how I used to be, I talk about her, like she is someone else. Instead of saying, "I was so happy, and outgoing," I say that she was.

  59. It's been 5 years for me too, Ive tried working again and I cant make it past the 3rd day. But I keep the faith and am grateful there's people like Lizzie willing to share…

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